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by asthonjohn1986 wrote:kasi nga,
takot sila sa bg/gf
nila, baka daw magulpi sila, hahahaha
agree LOL
Why do people lie to those they love?
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kasi..
ayaw nating bgyan ng disappointment ung lalabs natin.
kaya minsan para wala nalang pgusapan, lie nalang.
(bad padin)ahe
ayaw nating bgyan ng disappointment ung lalabs natin.
kaya minsan para wala nalang pgusapan, lie nalang.
(bad padin)ahe
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uu nga naman,
at isa pa
nakita nila si rish
kaya nagsisinungaling sila,
parang si bry, na love at first sight ata?
at isa pa
nakita nila si rish
kaya nagsisinungaling sila,
parang si bry, na love at first sight ata?
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errr kc eun nga may point eung nipost ni sis rish.. ayaw Lang cguro nating madisappoint eung mga Lavwans natin kea kahit aLam natin na masama nagsisinungaLing tau 
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yah right, to lie is to
die and sacrifice for your love one,
eh eto isa
pa, andito rin
si mam dolly, ayun,
nagsisinungaling sila kasi
andito si mam dolly, mas
cute sa gf nila
die and sacrifice for your love one,
eh eto isa
pa, andito rin
si mam dolly, ayun,
nagsisinungaling sila kasi
andito si mam dolly, mas
cute sa gf nila
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haLa boLero si kua haha... newiez eun nga pero keLangan din naman natin isipin up to what extent tau mag sisinungaLing diba
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yup yup yup,
that's true,
kung ako sa kanila,
mag confess agad
ako sa priest para
mapatawad kaagad ako, nyahaha ccccccc(^^,)")
that's true,
kung ako sa kanila,
mag confess agad
ako sa priest para
mapatawad kaagad ako, nyahaha ccccccc(^^,)")
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eh pano
kung kasalanan
nga eh, kunwari
may
naka-date na ibang
babae?
xmpwe lie
muna, kesa
naman magalit
at mag-alburuto diba?
kung kasalanan
nga eh, kunwari
may
naka-date na ibang
babae?
xmpwe lie
muna, kesa
naman magalit
at mag-alburuto diba?
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Why People Lie
Why do people lie, especially to those they love?
Lying is a technique that is used to influence, control and manipulate others thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. Lying comes naturally, and most of the time, it happens with little awareness, effort, or thought. In fact, children start lying, quite effectively, early in life. And as adults, people continue to lie.
Not only is lying fairly common, but it can take several different forms. On occasion, people will tell a bold-faced lie. That is, say something that is explicitly not true. Most of the time, however, lying is best accomplished by what is left unsaid a lie of omission. In this case, speakers leave out critical information (usually about who, what, where, when, or why) while leading hearers to believe that the complete story is being told. As Benjamin Franklin so keenly noted, Half the truth is often a great lie.
So why do people lie, especially to those they love?
Lying is typically motivated by one or more of the following factors:
Avoid Punishment
Lying is often used to avoid punishment or possible rejection. If a spouse or romantic partner is going to react poorly to the truth, generally speaking, people try to hide or conceal the truth. By nature, people are designed to avoid harm and punishment, even if individuals have to lie in order to do so. Again, children pick-up this skill early in life and people continue to lie as adults.
Seek Approval
Not only are people designed to avoid punishment, but people universally have a need for approval. Lying and deception are often used to create a favorable image or impression. People will go to great lengths, even using deception, if necessary, to create a positive image. Often this involves some self-deception as well people start to believe their own false image is true.
Maintain Privacy
Everyone needs some privacy a sense of independence, autonomy, and freedom. People like to feel in control, especially when it comes to giving out information about ones self. Just because you are in a close relationship does not mean that you have completely given up your right to, or need for, privacy. So, lying and deception are very useful when trying to maintain a sense of ones self that is autonomous, independent, and private.
Avoid Conflict
Couples rarely see eye-to-eye on every issue. And if couples were determined to (and some do), they could engage in never ending conflict on a range of issues. But, always engaging in conflict is damaging in any relationship. So, rather than argue about every issue that may come up, sometimes it is easier to avoid conflict by pretending to get along.
Regulate Power
Whether people like to acknowledge it or not, power differences are present in every relationship. Power involves having control when it comes to decision making. And power often switches back and forth between partners depending on the issue at hand. For instance, one partner might have financial power, while another partner may have social power (control in social situations). As a general rule, the person who lacks power in any given situation is more likely to lie in order to influence the outcome. For instance, kids are more likely to lie to their parents, employees are more likely to lie to employers, and the same holds true in close relationships. The person, who lacks power, is more likely to lie in order to get what they want. Lying helps individuals even out power differences that may exist.
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Timothy Cole, PhD. For more information on lies, lying, deception, love and romance, visit Truth about Deception
Why do people lie, especially to those they love?
Lying is a technique that is used to influence, control and manipulate others thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. Lying comes naturally, and most of the time, it happens with little awareness, effort, or thought. In fact, children start lying, quite effectively, early in life. And as adults, people continue to lie.
Not only is lying fairly common, but it can take several different forms. On occasion, people will tell a bold-faced lie. That is, say something that is explicitly not true. Most of the time, however, lying is best accomplished by what is left unsaid a lie of omission. In this case, speakers leave out critical information (usually about who, what, where, when, or why) while leading hearers to believe that the complete story is being told. As Benjamin Franklin so keenly noted, Half the truth is often a great lie.
So why do people lie, especially to those they love?
Lying is typically motivated by one or more of the following factors:
Avoid Punishment
Lying is often used to avoid punishment or possible rejection. If a spouse or romantic partner is going to react poorly to the truth, generally speaking, people try to hide or conceal the truth. By nature, people are designed to avoid harm and punishment, even if individuals have to lie in order to do so. Again, children pick-up this skill early in life and people continue to lie as adults.
Seek Approval
Not only are people designed to avoid punishment, but people universally have a need for approval. Lying and deception are often used to create a favorable image or impression. People will go to great lengths, even using deception, if necessary, to create a positive image. Often this involves some self-deception as well people start to believe their own false image is true.
Maintain Privacy
Everyone needs some privacy a sense of independence, autonomy, and freedom. People like to feel in control, especially when it comes to giving out information about ones self. Just because you are in a close relationship does not mean that you have completely given up your right to, or need for, privacy. So, lying and deception are very useful when trying to maintain a sense of ones self that is autonomous, independent, and private.
Avoid Conflict
Couples rarely see eye-to-eye on every issue. And if couples were determined to (and some do), they could engage in never ending conflict on a range of issues. But, always engaging in conflict is damaging in any relationship. So, rather than argue about every issue that may come up, sometimes it is easier to avoid conflict by pretending to get along.
Regulate Power
Whether people like to acknowledge it or not, power differences are present in every relationship. Power involves having control when it comes to decision making. And power often switches back and forth between partners depending on the issue at hand. For instance, one partner might have financial power, while another partner may have social power (control in social situations). As a general rule, the person who lacks power in any given situation is more likely to lie in order to influence the outcome. For instance, kids are more likely to lie to their parents, employees are more likely to lie to employers, and the same holds true in close relationships. The person, who lacks power, is more likely to lie in order to get what they want. Lying helps individuals even out power differences that may exist.
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Everybody lies. It may only be “white” lies, but everyone tells lies or “omits the truth” sometimes. We start lying at around age 4 to 5 when children gain an awareness of the use and power of language. This first lying is not malicious, but rather to find out, or test, what can manipulated in a child’s environment. Eventually children begin to use lying to get out of trouble or get something they want. White lies, those concocted to protect someone’s feelings, are not a big deal at all. The person, however, who seems to feel compelled to lie about both the small and large stuff has a problem. We often call these folks pathological liars (which is a description, not a diagnosis). They lie to protect themselves, look good, gain financially or socially and avoid punishment. Quite often the person who has been deceived knows that this type of liar has to a certain extent deluded him or herself and is therefore to be somewhat pitied.A much more troubling group is those who lie a lot — and knowingly — for personal gain. These people may have a diagnosis called antisocial personality disorder, also known as being a sociopath, and often get into scrapes with the law. Lying often gets worse with the passage of time. When you get away with a lie it often impels you to continue your deceptions. Also, liars often find themselves perpetrating more untruths to cover themselves. We hold different people to different standards when it comes to telling the truth. We expect, for example, less honesty from politicians than from scientists. We have a vision of purity about those who are doing research, while we imagine that politicians will at least shade the truth about themselves in order to get elected. Why do we dislike liars, especially sociopaths, so much? It’s a matter of trust. When a person lies, they have broken a bond – an unspoken agreement to treat others as we would like to be treated. Serious deception often makes it impossible for us to trust another person again. Because the issue of trust is on the line, coming clean about the lie as soon as possible is the best way to mend fences. If the truth only comes out once it is forced, repair of trust is far less likely. As a parent, the most important message you can send your children about lying is that you always — always — want them to come clean with you. No matter how big a whopper they have told, remind them that you would always rather hear the truth, no matter how bad it is, than be deceived. Tell them there is really nothing more sacred in your relationship than your trust of each other. Of course, all this presupposes that we have discovered an untruth — some people are so expert at deception that it often takes a long time to find out that we have been lied to.How, then, can we best detect whether we are being misled? There is no foolproof way, but there are often clues you can see in behavior that should make you suspicious:
Avoidance of eye contact: Usually someone makes eye contact at least half the time they are talking to you. If you notice them avoiding eye contact or looking down during a specific part of a conversation, they may well be lying.
Change of voice: A variation in pitch of voice or rate of speech can be a sign of lying. So can lots of umms and ahhs.
Body language. Turning your body away, covering your face or mouth, a lot of fidgeting of hands or legs can indicate deception.
Contradicting yourself:. Making statements that just don’t hold together should make you suspicious. If you lie all the time, even about unimportant things, you are likely to have a problem that will eventually -- if it hasn’t already -- cause you real relationship, financial or legal troubles. Figuring out what is driving you to lie in the first place will help heal this self-destructive behavior. This may mean going into treatment with a therapist to discover why you feel the need to deceive.
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Avoidance of eye contact: Usually someone makes eye contact at least half the time they are talking to you. If you notice them avoiding eye contact or looking down during a specific part of a conversation, they may well be lying.
Change of voice: A variation in pitch of voice or rate of speech can be a sign of lying. So can lots of umms and ahhs.
Body language. Turning your body away, covering your face or mouth, a lot of fidgeting of hands or legs can indicate deception.
Contradicting yourself:. Making statements that just don’t hold together should make you suspicious. If you lie all the time, even about unimportant things, you are likely to have a problem that will eventually -- if it hasn’t already -- cause you real relationship, financial or legal troubles. Figuring out what is driving you to lie in the first place will help heal this self-destructive behavior. This may mean going into treatment with a therapist to discover why you feel the need to deceive.
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nyahaha,
un ang lumabas
sa research ko eh
un ang lumabas
sa research ko eh
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wahahaha,
xmpwe binabasa ko
din naman yun,
why do people lie,
coz they
want to
xmpwe binabasa ko
din naman yun,
why do people lie,
coz they
want to
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tama yan,
kadalasan
ginagawa ko
white lies
kadalasan
ginagawa ko
white lies
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^ ui d ha,
para lang walang magalit
para lang walang magalit
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nyahaha, eh hndi totoo
eh di sinungaling nga yun
eh di sinungaling nga yun
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